As I expressed in my introduction, I grew up in a house with a mother who was virtually unaware of being positive. The result was two youngsters whereas growing up became as negative as their mother. It took years to interrupt our thinking from skepticism and begin to live throughout this world as positive thinkers. i’m not sheepish to admit that I even need to watch out with my thinking.
HOW TO MAINTAIN A POSITIVE angle AND keep POSITIVE AROUND.
Do you see yourself with a stunning attitude? If so, my next query would be how are doing this? Please inform me how do you continue to be a positive thinker when working in such a region as a state prison, a vicinity that is full of terrible thinkers. An area that nicely recognized to suck out ones high quality thinking.
Knowing that I came from a pessimistic background, and have been at one time a terrible thinker myself, I had to boost a plan to defend myself. During the first 5 years working in a state prison, I developed a format that has blanketed me.
1). One of the most vital step is to locate yourself anybody who you are extraordinarily close to you, anyone who has a tremendous attitude themselves, and it’s than you share with them the need of their help. Ask that individual to share with you if he sees you’re leaning towards skeptic while working as a chaplain and being surrounded via violence and anger. I have had to respond to those who have been angry, and even adversarial towards me. I even had to send several to the lockup due to their threats. So you can see just how easy it is to emerge as negative.
2). It’s integral that you start to insist what is taking place around you. What are your thoughts? Stay alert to your physique language. For occasion What are the words, the actions, the tone of voice, the facial expressions? It’s a fact that terrible phrases being spoken are tough to be around. It’s quintessential that we take into account this is no longer the sign of one being trapped in negativism. Is this individual an absolutely attempting some thought through the use of inappropriate words?
3). This next key that I began to develop is an extremely hard when working with those who are in a prison, in a negative place. It’s important to remember that The offender are a professional manipulator. But I’ve heard many times staff talking just like if not even worse of the offenders. It’s because of this that we must be on guard.
But when you are around others its critical that you assume the best about the intentions of those around you. Unless you have facts to prove differently. Otherwise, assume that the negative talk is simply the bad habit of complaining.
4) When working in a prison, you will receive hateful criticism, insults, your be spit at, cussed from the offenders. You can’t allow yourself to take all this and more personally.
It was a Friday morning, and I was walking to visit a new offender in one of our dorms. When passing South dorm I heard an offender screaming out obscenities through his window. The next thing I knew there were others joining in.
It’s important to remember never allow such negative behavior and talk To cause you any grief on your spiritual walk. Also remember their talk is about them, not about you and yes, this is very difficult to put into practice. When you are the target of the other person’s complaints, and especially their sarcasm, it is very hard not to take it personally. Try, however, to remain objective and assess whether there is any rational basis for the criticism. When the criticism is unfounded, know that the other person is simply venting their own pent-up hostility in your direction, and again, don’t take it personally.
5) When you are able to take these insults and statements without taking them personal then you need to begin to remind your self that this person may have grown up in very poor environment, an environment of poor thinkers and doers. Maybe this person, like yourself, lived with a family of negativism if not worse. And if that is the case, begin to file away these statement under “Pray for.” You will be amazed how nicely this will help.
6) Now that you are capable to file these phrases under ” Pray for.” Then your subsequent step would be doing simply that, pray for that person. Remember the words, “prayer regulate lives.”
One of my favorite scriptures in the Old Testament can be found in second Chronicles 7:14 “… 7my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.”
Without going into a biblical study on this scripture, the most preeminent question would be that “if we pray, God will hear.” extra significantly, “God will forgive.”
So my question is that if God is willing to forgive, then who are we not to?
7). Remember no one will have 100% healthy or negative attitude all the time.
But while checking on yourself and your attitude, and you’ve had found that your attitude remained healthy. You’ll need to have gratitude for everything that is positive. Make a list of everything that
Is found in your life, esp. your prison ministry. Keep writing until you have compiled a meaningful list. Then give thanks for all that is positive.
8). This will be another suitable time to evaluate your personal thinking, your speech, and your actions. Do you remain a positive thinker? If not, then it’s time you begin praying for yourself. And remember, until you begin to acquire help from someone else, it will be almost impossible to be in a position to facilitate others.